Legacy | Define Legacy at Dictionary.com www.dictionary.com/browse/legacy a gift of property, especially personal property, as money, by will; a bequest. 2. anything handed down from the past, as from an ancestor or predecessor: the legacy of ancient Rome.

Rabbi Elkodsi, of the Malverne Jewish Center, wanted to segue into the topic of Leaving a Legacy.  She got me.  I realized where I am and where I am going and I WAS DESPERATE TO LEAVE A LEGACY.   If my book is about one thing – it is about my journey to find a legacy to leave.

Legacy USUALLY means money.  All the hospitals, all the synagogues and churches, all the summer camps, all the charitable organizations are all hoping I am in a position to leave them a legacy.

But what is a middle class mom supposed to do when there is not enough wealth accumulated to leave a legacy?

I wrote a book and am 6 chapters into my second.  My girlfriend has knitted and socked away enough baby blankets to leave for the great-grandchildren she will never see.

What if you are single? Never had children? or will never have grandchildren?  Well, I would say: “What did you enjoy most of all, in your life?”  Was it food? Leave recipes.  Was it skiing? Leave a scholarship.  Was it swimming? Send someone to summer camp.  Was it sitting in the park?  Leave a bench!

YOUR PASSION is the answer.  If you enjoy(ed) traveling, leave your cleaning lady a trip.   Make your passion become your legacy.  Make your legacy become your purpose and your purpose become your project.  Just trying to get it done will keep you busy.  Getting it done will make you proud.  Sharing your project with the world will make you less lonely.   And your life will find its meaning, so aging will be bittersweet, not just bitter.

I want to hear your thoughts.



when my tooth cracked under my cap.  I needed to be anesthetized in order to go through with the necessary procedure.  “The total, with the implant will be $4,500,” the receptionist told me and I willingly signed because the pain was just plain unbearable.  My husband had just put $ 1600 on the credit card for his root canal.

I met a woman who told me she needed 10, I repeat TEN implants.  Well, that means that in retirement, when there is no more dental insurance, we could potentially need $ 100K for dental work.  So, just as I was thinking about my bucket list, I realized that I may not want to book that trip.  OR should I book the trip and not worry about our teeth?  WHO CAN FIGURE THIS DILEMMA OUT?


I was never interested in my larger family.  I grew up in a small, insular community, and heard stories, and saw photos but no one put the stories and photos together.  No one gave these people life.  My mother was a very negative person.  So, I turned my back, went to therapy, and spent years trying to untangle the web my mother had created.  And now, I am lonely and aging, and my daughter had gotten my grandson interested in DNA and so, long story short, I managed TO FIND a real second cousin I never knew existed!  And here we are.    It is true you cannot pick your family members.  BUT imagine how great it is to find a relative you connect with and actually like!  It fills that emptiness and together you bond and fill in gaps and connect dots and share stories with.  And MARLA is a pro at this- for real.  I am just the lucky recipient!  And if Marla and I lived closer we would probably light the Chanukah menorah together!  And we will in our hearts!

Another five star review. Thank you!

It was filled with humorous experiences and also sad ones. I enjoyed reading it, learning that as my grandmother said, “Getting old is hard work!”

Nothing comes easy, and especially not aging. Thank you to this reader/reviewer who got my book!

Click on look inside on http://www.amazon.com RAGING AGAINST AGING.  For the 60 + crowd.  Think:  HOLIDAY GIFT!



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It doesn’t matter whether you are kvetching about a family gathering for a Seder or feeling the pressure of preparing Christmas dinner we can all relate to the telling tales in Jackie’s book about aging. The funny,heart-warming chapters speak to us and for us in a way that only Jackie can. Thank you Jackie for telling “our” stories in a very enjoyable book!
While my book is steeped in my Jewish culture, I am so glad to know that I succeeded in getting across the universality of aging and being a grandmother and all that comes with this role!  TY for this review!




I blogged about “to declutter or not to declutter, that is the question.” I came to the conclusion that I must declutter. I threw out NINE bags of books that were OLD, worn, torn and just out-of-date. I could not tell. It did not make a difference. I still do not have any extra shelf space.
I had the gardener trim and deadhead the perennials in the front yard. The garden does not look any less full. I am on a diet. I still cannot shed a pound. I donated all the clothes in my closet that I have not worn in the last two years. I still do not have any extra hangers, nor do I have any extra hanging space. So, what have I accomplished? In addition, I have gone back to old hobbies – writing and drawing. Now I have piles of projects—some I am finishing off, like my book, others that are I am in the middle of, like two children’s book I am working on, some I am collecting as ideas. In addition, I became interested in ancestry.com. I met a second cousin I never knew existed and now I have two folders — one for my paternal ancestors and one for my maternal ones. My husband, who is a history guy, saw my collection of photos and articles and he became interested. Now we are making a folder for his ancestors. My grandson is in kindergarten and he has already created lots of drawings and a few samples of writing that my daughter simply must keep but has no space, and so we are now collecting his work. My granddaughter, who is two, has the “What am I chopped liver?” attitude, so we are now collecting her work.
My plan was to retire and SIMPLIFY.
Is life complicated or is it just me?

ALWAYS take your cleaning lady along with you when you go shopping for a new vacuum cleaner

mile_1-2.pngI made the mistake of going without my cleaning lady.  I came home with a top of the line Lindenhaus vacuum.  It was very powerful and you did not need to switch to clean floors and carpet.  It has two types of brushes and it looked simple to use.  True, it was big and a little clunky but you did not have to switch heads.  I called my cleaning lady to show her what I thought was the next best thing to a robotic vacuum.  Her face sank.  She was clearly unhappy.  She told me she wanted a Miele.  I went back to the store and the fabulous owner exchanged the brand new Lindenhaus model for the tried and true Miele.  My cleaning lady THANKED ME and was so happy.  It was priceless, really.  “Who cleans?” she said:  “Me or you?”