Legacy | Define Legacy at Dictionary.com www.dictionary.com/browse/legacy a gift of property, especially personal property, as money, by will; a bequest. 2. anything handed down from the past, as from an ancestor or predecessor: the legacy of ancient Rome.

Rabbi Elkodsi, of the Malverne Jewish Center, wanted to segue into the topic of Leaving a Legacy.  She got me.  I realized where I am and where I am going and I WAS DESPERATE TO LEAVE A LEGACY.   If my book is about one thing – it is about my journey to find a legacy to leave.

Legacy USUALLY means money.  All the hospitals, all the synagogues and churches, all the summer camps, all the charitable organizations are all hoping I am in a position to leave them a legacy.

But what is a middle class mom supposed to do when there is not enough wealth accumulated to leave a legacy?

I wrote a book and am 6 chapters into my second.  My girlfriend has knitted and socked away enough baby blankets to leave for the great-grandchildren she will never see.

What if you are single? Never had children? or will never have grandchildren?  Well, I would say: “What did you enjoy most of all, in your life?”  Was it food? Leave recipes.  Was it skiing? Leave a scholarship.  Was it swimming? Send someone to summer camp.  Was it sitting in the park?  Leave a bench!

YOUR PASSION is the answer.  If you enjoy(ed) traveling, leave your cleaning lady a trip.   Make your passion become your legacy.  Make your legacy become your purpose and your purpose become your project.  Just trying to get it done will keep you busy.  Getting it done will make you proud.  Sharing your project with the world will make you less lonely.   And your life will find its meaning, so aging will be bittersweet, not just bitter.

I want to hear your thoughts.

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I AM OFFICIAL!

I just joined the National Society of Newspaper Columnists at the behest of a syndicated columnist who started reading my book.  I am officially a writer, in case you doubted it for one minute!

I know it is hard to believe that I was a selective mute in grade school but baby, look at me now!

 

A CITY LIVING ROOM

My daughter wanted to move back to our lovely suburban town but found that she was locked out price wise.  We wanted to sell our house and move back to a city apartment and found that we were locked out price wise.  I am tired of my beach cottage look.  I would go for the urban if I could.  AND I CAN!  AND I DID in my little HABA world.  Notice the exposed brick wall and rustic/urban wood flooring.  SO sophisticated and so cozy at the same time. I think I will be spending lots of winter hours here in this living room.  Who wants to come over and play dolls with me?

SO I HAD JUST DECIDED TO BOOK A TRIP TO ICELAND AND TAKE MY GRANDKIDS TO SEE THE AURORA BOREALIS….

when my tooth cracked under my cap.  I needed to be anesthetized in order to go through with the necessary procedure.  “The total, with the implant will be $4,500,” the receptionist told me and I willingly signed because the pain was just plain unbearable.  My husband had just put $ 1600 on the credit card for his root canal.

I met a woman who told me she needed 10, I repeat TEN implants.  Well, that means that in retirement, when there is no more dental insurance, we could potentially need $ 100K for dental work.  So, just as I was thinking about my bucket list, I realized that I may not want to book that trip.  OR should I book the trip and not worry about our teeth?  WHO CAN FIGURE THIS DILEMMA OUT?

SHE HAD THE BLACK AND WHITE PHOTOS I GREW UP WITH IN HER FAMILY ALBUM!

I was never interested in my larger family.  I grew up in a small, insular community, and heard stories, and saw photos but no one put the stories and photos together.  No one gave these people life.  My mother was a very negative person.  So, I turned my back, went to therapy, and spent years trying to untangle the web my mother had created.  And now, I am lonely and aging, and my daughter had gotten my grandson interested in DNA and so, long story short, I managed TO FIND a real second cousin I never knew existed!  And here we are.    It is true you cannot pick your family members.  BUT imagine how great it is to find a relative you connect with and actually like!  It fills that emptiness and together you bond and fill in gaps and connect dots and share stories with.  And MARLA is a pro at this- for real.  I am just the lucky recipient!  And if Marla and I lived closer we would probably light the Chanukah menorah together!  And we will in our hearts!

10 Days to My Book Talk

Feel free to contact mjctemple@gmail.com or call 593-6364 or email or text me.   HOPE TO SEE YOU THEN.

10 Days to my Book Talk and 12 until CHANUKAH!

I FINISHED MY BATHROOM REMODELING! It cost me $ 2.00!

Anyone who knows me, knows that we spent years gutting and redoing our tiny beach cottage.  We did room by room to keep the costs and upheaval down.  And now, 23 years later, the back bathroom needs to be updated.  The kitchen needs upgrading.  And I do NOT want to spend the the time and effort and money that will take.  I dream of a NYC loft.  Well, thanks to having a granddaughter, I have found my outlet.  I tiled behind the bath and the floor.  I “painted” the walls and gave this bathroom the modern, urban look I am so into now.  The remodeling cost me all of $2.00 and it took half an hour.  I am onto remodeling the bedroom!