I was never interested in my larger family. I grew up in a small, insular community, and heard stories, and saw photos but no one put the stories and photos together. No one gave these people life. My mother was a very negative person. So, I turned my back, went to therapy, and spent years trying to untangle the web my mother had created. And now, I am lonely and aging, and my daughter had gotten my grandson interested in DNA and so, long story short, I managed TO FIND a real second cousin I never knew existed! And here we are. It is true you cannot pick your family members. BUT imagine how great it is to find a relative you connect with and actually like! It fills that emptiness and together you bond and fill in gaps and connect dots and share stories with. And MARLA is a pro at this- for real. I am just the lucky recipient! And if Marla and I lived closer we would probably light the Chanukah menorah together! And we will in our hearts!