NOT because I am taking on surfing as my next hobby. No, I bought the outfit so that I will not be so cold in the fall when I continue to exercise in the water. The lifeguards told me a rash guard will keep me warm and since I am up to doing 50 minutes of exercises in the pool, I want to maintain my ability if I can. My husband said I look “hot.” Let’s remember that he is in his mid 70s and is living in his imagination!
This lady clearly loves flowers but her yard is slightly overgrown and there are odd pots strewn here and there. Her house is a little run down and I can relate. Once I got joy from doing the gardening and my daughter even bought me special garden knee pads to help me with my work. But my knees now hurt and I am afraid that if I go down on them, I may never get up. Besides, I can only do a certain amount in the day, and writing and doing art has replaced my love of gardening. I can see letting the house go a little at a time because that is how aging happens, a little at a time. And at this point in my life, I became Cindi Lauper: I JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN!
Nonetheless, I am very fond of this lady and her house and her garden and perhaps I will get a dog!
Rabbi Elkodsi, of the Malverne Jewish Center, wanted to segue into the topic of Leaving a Legacy. She got me. I realized where I am and where I am going and I WAS DESPERATE TO LEAVE A LEGACY. If my book is about one thing – it is about my journey to find a legacy to leave.
Legacy USUALLY means money. All the hospitals, all the synagogues and churches, all the summer camps, all the charitable organizations are all hoping I am in a position to leave them a legacy.
But what is a middle class mom supposed to do when there is not enough wealth accumulated to leave a legacy?
I wrote a book and am 6 chapters into my second. My girlfriend has knitted and socked away enough baby blankets to leave for the great-grandchildren she will never see.
What if you are single? Never had children? or will never have grandchildren? Well, I would say: “What did you enjoy most of all, in your life?” Was it food? Leave recipes. Was it skiing? Leave a scholarship. Was it swimming? Send someone to summer camp. Was it sitting in the park? Leave a bench!
YOUR PASSION is the answer. If you enjoy(ed) traveling, leave your cleaning lady a trip. Make your passion become your legacy. Make your legacy become your purpose and your purpose become your project. Just trying to get it done will keep you busy. Getting it done will make you proud. Sharing your project with the world will make you less lonely. And your life will find its meaning, so aging will be bittersweet, not just bitter.
I want to hear your thoughts.
I spent many years redoing and upgrading our small house. We did it room by room so we were under construction for what seemed like forever. Then – we upgraded and added a closet, an office area and another closet, and finally a second full bath. As a retirement present to myself, we got rid of the commercial carpeting and horrible linoleum floor that was covering our main living area and had light maple wood flooring installed. Now whenever something has to be updated, and doesn’t something ALWAYS have to be updated when you have a house, I try really hard to ignore it. I don’t want to do that anymore. BUT just as I am giving up on my house, I have a NEW PROJECT to fill that void. It is more affordable and I still get to pick out furnishing and decorate. Thank goodness for GRANDDAUGHTERS!
I am buying DOLL furnishings! See the photo? I tiled around the bath. I made the shower curtain and I found scrapbook paper with a water theme that I put in the tub and toilet bowel. I know the bathroom needs a paint job but this is a paint job I do not have to stand on a ladder to complete. I ordered battery operated tea lights and am going to try to hang one upside down to serve as a light fixture. Once the paint is dry, I will have to decided whether or not to tile the floor.
When I finish the bathroom, I will go onto the kitchen. I already have a brick wall for the living room because, hey, I would love to live in a NYC loft. I am going around collecting carpet samples – not for myself but in order to find the perfect color and style for this NYC loft space that belongs to HABA 4-inch bendable dolls!
THANK YOU TO MY BLOG MASTER FOR PUTTING ME ON WORDPRESS. I blogged a little blog. A few people read it. I blogged again – another little blog. People visited and viewed it. I found I had an outlet to my voice. I blogged again and again. All little blogs. Now I have a book. It is available for circulation in my local library. One of my clients ordered a book and donated it to her local library.
“My father would be so proud,” my mother would tell me. He revered books. My mother revered crafts. As you can see, I had no shot at being a big business person from the very beginning! But, I have already been on one podcast, one radio talk show, am scheduled to do a book talk, am scheduled to be on a local public access t v interview show, and will be on a podcast radio show -that operates out of Durham, NC. And my book just debuted Oct. 6th! “Not too shabby,” my friend would say.
If YOU WANT TO BUY A COPY FOR YOUR LIBRARY, THAT WOULD BE A FABULOUS CHANUKAH GIFT TO ME AND TO OTHERS WHO ARE AGING. AND 18% of the proceeds goes to Memorial Sloan Kettering – if not for our sakes, then for the sake of our children.
p.s. I AM FIVE FULL CHAPTERS INTO MY NEXT BOOK!
My doctor is into the arts. Of course she is. She was raised in Europe and she thrives on culture – the kind of culture we, here, do not often appreciate. Because we are a society that appreciates what exactly? Thrills? Distractions? Never mind, if you want a doctor who cares about your heart – not just the physical heart – but the emotional one, too, CALL me and I will share my contact information!!!!
Here is how it works: I posted here on wordpress and on Facebook and LinkedIn about my podcast. (The rabbi who interviewed me, found me from my Facebook postings). Another rabbi heard the podcast and found my email address from the organization’s flyer. She emailed me and asked me to present some time in December. I will post details so that all my former colleagues can come since it will be near the district. The internet is amazing. I am really not tech savvy. I am, however, an incredible networker and the network is called a network for a reason!!!!!
I posted a podcast on wordpress, Facebook, and Linked In. A rabbi read the post, listened to the podcast, and contacted me and wants me to do a workshop about…AGING, of course. From blog, to chapter, to chapters, to book, to writing on the blog site, to sharing on Facebook and Linked In, to a workshop. This is the POWER of the INTERNET!
Will post details when I know the details!