THE HYBIRD

“We don’t have those trees where I am,” she said pointing.  “Are they sycamores?” she asked me. 

What my daughter’s mother-in-law does not understand is that her question took me back over 45 years ago to when I finished high school.  What my daughter’s mother-in-law does not know is that I took an aptitude test after I graduated high school because I had no idea what I wanted to be.  The top recommendation came back – “botanist”.  

I grew up in a small walk-up apartment in the city   I had no experience with plants  and could not envision myself spending my life grafting vegetation to create new species

I have long since left the city and I have become an avid gardener.

I knew enough to look up at the leaves.

“No,” I answered. “They are maple trees. See the leaves?”  

  “Oh yes,” my daughter’s m-i-l said.  

But the tree trunks looked like army fatigues so I googled the tree up.  Lo and behold these were sycamore maple trees.  

Our shared granddaughter was sitting in between us.  I leaned over to Linda. “ The trees are hybrids just like our granddaughter,” I said.  “Look!  June has your nose and my hair!”

THE YIZKOR CANDLE by Jacqueline Becker as it appears in MSK anthology

 

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     It was time to light the Yizkor, or memorial candle.  We traditionally light it during the week of shiva, or mourning.  We light it at sundown just before we light the four major holiday candles.  We also light it on the anniversary of the death of a close member the family.  The candle represents the soul.  Yizkor is the command verb to remember.  It would translate into:  “He SHALL remember.”  Remembering is imperative in our religion.  The candle is meant to burn a full 24 hours. 

    When our department took our supervisor out to celebrate her retirement, we went to a small, lovely Mexican restaurant.  It was late afternoon and the staff began to light the candles on our table.  My colleague-friend, Debbi, looked at me and I looked back at her.  We were the only ones who understood.  We burst out in laughter.  We could not hold back as the tears streamed down our cheeks.     To be continued tomorrow…

My promo is over in 2 days and so far…

221 people are reading my book over the last 3 days.

MY PROMO JUST STARTED AND 155 PEOPLE ARE READING MY BOOK!

Thank you KINDLE for suggesting that I offer a free promo.  And just in time for Mother’s Day.   http://www.kindle.com RAGING AGAINST AGING: Kicking & screaming, laughing & crying, stretching & kvetching by Jacqueline Becker.  HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

We saw the dietician on Thurs. On Fri…

We saw the dietician on Thurs. and with her voice and instructions really fresh in our brains, we went immediately to the gym and exercised.  Then we went directly to Whole Foods and shopped.  That is when I bought EVERY vegetable I recognized.

On Friday my granddaughter came to spend the day as she was off and everyone else had work.  It was pouring out.  What does a grandmother and granddaughter do together on a rainy day?  Of course, we baked!  We made – and here is an inadvertent plug for Simple Mills Chocolate Cake and Muffin Mix.   I am and have been gluten free these past five years.   Of course I sent my granddaughter home with cupcakes for everyone.  BUT…we kept four for ourselves.  (Best gluten free product I have found to date.)

Sh!!!!! Please don’t tell our dietician.  We did eat half a plate of cauliflower for dinner last night.  We did have small portions of red lentil spaghetti (the Whole Foods 365 brand is gluten free and tastes really good).  We did have baked salmon.

BUT, we DID have a chocolate muffin!!!!

WE SPLIT UP!!!!

It was our last summer hurrah.  And I proposed something politically incorrect, even sexist!   My husband proposed going to Yankee Stadium with our grandson and son-in-law.  I looked at my daughter and granddaughter.  What were we- chopped liver?  I ordered tickets to the Gazillion Bubble Show and we had a girls day.  My granddaughter was picked to go onstage and since she believes she is Elsa, she had no problem pretending that the stage was a winter setting and the the bubbles were snow.

And what kind of girls day does not end with a little shopping spree?

5 more books sold!!!

Thank you – whomever you are – for purchasing and reading my book.  If you have had a difficult life, were married, divorced, remarried, if you have now have grandkids, and you are still laughing  – you will relate to the story of my life!  18 % of sales goes to Memorial Sloan Kettering for keeping me alive!

Four more just sold…

This book is an easy read but makes you think.  Please take it with you to the beach or pool or consider giving as a gift.  My book goes great with summer.

“WILD HAIR – DON ‘T CARE”- no the visual is not me – but I have hair like that!

My granddaughter sports a T-shirt that says:  “Wild Hair – Don’t Care.”   I want one.

When I was little, my mother would make me banana curls.  But since I was a teen, I have spent my time blowing my hair straight.  This time I went into the hair salon and showed them a picture of my 3-YEAR-OLD GRANDDAUGHTER.  “I want hair like that,” I explained.

Well, they did a fabulous matching color job AND they gave me back my curly hair.

When we walk together, people stop and gasp:  “She looks just like you,”they say pointing to my granddaughter.  “Yes,” I laugh, “the looks skipped a generation.”

GIVE ME BACK MY FACE!

 

I have come to the conclusion that there is a narcissist inside each and every one of us.  My granddaughter— well, she looks like me.  Even though she has her dad’s nose and his mother’s round face, she looks like me.  Even though she is built a little chunky and she has sturdy legs and feet, and I have thin legs and high arches, she looks like me.  She does not have my blue eyes.  But she has my hair.  Her hair is curly and wavy.  It has a wildness to it.  It needs work.   But after a bit of detangler and after someone runs a comb through it, and after someone twists a little piece and puts a ribbon in, she is striking.  

She has my look, my expressions, my feistiness.  She is charming and likes to laugh.  She likes to make others laugh.  She is engaging and she can hold a conversation.  

I had plucked a wild chin hair and it left a mark.  June noticed it when I was changing her diaper.  

“What’s that boo-boo?” she asked with sweet compassion.  She reached up and gently pulled my face down and said:

“I want to kiss that boo-boo.”  And she did.

Then she squirmed off the bed with an intent look on her face.  She has something to do and somewhere she has to be.  She is two and a half.

Dare to cross her, and she will give you a piece of her mind.  On occasion, she is knows to scream:

“Get out of here!  I didn’t ask for YOU!”

I cannot help it.

“Give me back my face,” I say mildly amused.  She laughs and pretends to rip her face off and put it on my head.  

“Give me back my hair,” I continue in awe that my looks and possibly my personality skipped a generation.   She is undeniably a part of me.  She pretends to pull her hair out and puts it on me.  But in a split second she takes back both her face and her hair.  

I look at her and I see a little me.  And I can’t help but be a little narcissistic and ever so proud!

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